Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Body positivity

A couple days ago I was talking to my cousin, and she gave me the idea to write a post on body positivity. She's a fellow beautiful, plus size girl, and she knows the hardships of having some doubt in the back of your mind when it comes to your body. I know It's hard to love yourself on those days where clothes don't fit right and you end up in a frumpy outfit, which in the end just makes you feel  even worst about yourself. Imagine feeling that everyday. Some people do, and it sucks. I'm not here to force you and tell you "just love yourself,  it's easy!" Because it's not easy.
        It all started for me when I reminded myself that I didn't need to impress anyone.Not your parents (even though it's very hard), not that one judgmental relative you see once a year, not even the relatives you see every week and especially that one useless boy or girl in high school and middle school(that may haunt you for years because that person called you fat that one time) . His or her opinion of you is meaningless. You need good vibes in your life not harmful vibes.
      If you call yourself beautiful everyday trust me you will start believing yourself. Tell yourself a little compliments every time you look at yourself in the mirror. It really helps. I really didn't want this post to be a "tips and tricks to loving yourself!" or "10 easy steps to loving who you are". I wanted to be honest and share my thought process of my body positivity journey.
it really was a journey that didn't happen over night. It has taken me about 3 years to 99.99% love who I am and who I've become. Yes that 1% includes these pesky dark marks from past acne, it also includes my unfiltered mouth to sex jokes and telling the harsh truth when you ask me an opinion I feel strongly about (don't debate me, it will end ugly) . That 1% even includes my wide shoulders that won't let me buy a simple leather jacket because it's always to tight.  Those parts i'm still working on and it'll probably take me even more time to get over.

Moral of all that blabbering, is to slowly learn to love your body. Big or small. Thigh gap or no thigh gap. You're beautiful and awesome and theirs no need to have any bad thoughts in your beautiful mind.
     If you read all that, I'm sorry I didn't mean to bore you with all that.
If you want to share your body positivity journey with me definitely feel free to tell me on any of my social media platforms privately you totally can!